Friday, August 22, 2008

39th anniversary.



so i am extremely clear on why i am the way i am.
i believe that i can find one person to love and spend the rest of my life with.
it's only been recently since i've pretended like the idea is farfetched.
i've sat quietly when people denounced the whole institution of marriage...
i've even considered theories of it being archaic, and no longer properly
in sync with the agendas of today.

fuck today.

i've had an example

.......

okay...lets do this...how did you guys meet?

well...we were at a basketball game, and he was playing.
i was there supporting my boyfriend phillip. after the
game, this guy ricky came over and said 'zone, there
is this guy that really wants to meet you. he saw you
sitting in the stands. can you wait around for him to
come out the locker room to meet you?' and i said
'sure'.

MOM!!!! you said you were there to support your boyfriend...
that is shady....

i know...but phillip was two timing me...and i knew it.
it didn't matter...phillip has PLENTY of girlfriends.
anyways, i was curious. so your father
came and said that he noticed me sitting up there...and
just wanted to know if he could have my address so that
he could write me. i said 'yes'.

WRITING LETTERS? see, thats what i need mom. i don't
wanna talk to anybody...i hate talking on the phone.
WRITE ME A LETTER! i love that. so he wrote you?

yea he did...but here's the thing. that night i told him
that i was a senior, but i was really a junior. your
father was already a freshman in college, so i wanted
to seem older. when i got the letter, i decided that i
really needed to come clean. so i told him that i
was a junior....phillip and i were over by then.

you really are a mess to me right now. so many
ridiculous details that i never knew. okay...how
many letters were exchanged before you two
physically saw one another again?

...ummm. not many. maybe one or two. then
he asked if he could take me out. and i said
that i had to ask my mother. so mama said
that he could come over for a house visit.
so he came...and daddy preached to him the
whole time (*my grandfather was a preacher)...
so we sat there and listened. and then we
sat in a room and talked, with the door open.

GRANDADDY PREACHED? hahahahaaaa....
were you embarrassed?

...ughhhh yea! but i was in my parent's house...
so if daddy wanted to preach, then thats what
he was gonna do.

okay. so dad. did you know that mom was going
to be your wife? like immediately...?

ughhhh...yea.

really? you knew off break?

::pause:: well...no. but i was certain after about
a year...maybe less.

okay..and mom, how early in the relationship
were you hopeful that dad would be your
husband?

well pam, your father and i dated for 3 years.
i would say that i knew after i enrolled into
st. aug (my father was in his junior year, when
my mother attended as a freshman).

what character traits were you hesitant about
with one another?

...i don't get what u mean.

okay for example...like dad parties too much,
and you are sitting around in the house waiting
for him to come home.

::in unison:: oh noooooo....that was never an issue.

ugh. okay. lets sayyyyy...faith, you guys had
difference in faith, or were just on different
agendas altogether.

ohhh okay. well you know i grew up pentecostal
and your father grew up baptist.

MOM THERE IS NO DIFFERENCE! the only blip there
there is that your church services were 9 hours
and dad's were 2.

hahahahahahahaha! yea you're right. girl,
God's hand has been provisioning over our
friendship since day one. we've had fun and
its been good.

:::silence:::
its too perfect guys. i mean, did you ever have
lowlights....low years.

yes. definitely. but we always fought through it.
we fight...all the time.

mama, i love it when you say that.

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notes:
i paid attention to her family...and i really liked them.
they reminded me of my family

okayyyy....so thats cool. but what if they didn't?

well then, i'd probably have another story to tell.

my sister says: so much has been lost over the years.

i conclude: its a new day. everything is a mess.

*i need to start carrying a tape recorder around.

4 comments:

shayla said...

once again i support the publishing of your family's book... love this post.

viridiansun said...

:::sigh::: so special

fruitfly4 said...

i love that. i want that. i'm gonna have that. (oh shoot! do i have that?) of course the beginning is different...

letters. yes. fond of them as well. awesome post.

the jodiest said...

"SIMPLY A JOY"
When GOD created blackwomen,
It showcased heavenly art,
It is amazing to look at sistas sometimes,
We have our differences and moments,
We argue and fall out sometimes,
We fight together and march side by side sometimes,
We make-up and heal sometimes,
Regardless,
I love blackwomen,
Sometimes it is simply a joy,
To be in your royal presence,
Often it is simply a joy to watch you walk,
The blessing of your shapes,
Your style,
The attitude,
The hand on the hip and neck poppin,
The way you talk,
As a people we been through alot,
You are the mother of civilization,
The one who was with me in the hull of the slave ship,
And the one beside me on the auction block,
You are the only one who knows and overstands my struggle,
Problems and issues between us shouldn't divide,
Sometimes it's simply a joy,
To look into a blackwoman's eyes.